Friday, January 30, 2009
Leave Me Some Love
Nicely Said
Below is the text, in case you have bad eyes, or just don't want to try to read it in the picture. I could not have said it better.
Why Don't Friends With Kids Have Time?
Tell Me About It by Carolyn Hax : Friend really doesn't get the kid thing
● Carolyn:
My best friend has a child. Her: Exhausted, busy, no time for self, no time for me, etc. Me (no kids): Wow. Sorry. What'd you do today? Her: Park, play group . . .
OK. I've done Internet searches; I've talked to parents. I don't get it. What do stay-at-home moms do all day? Please, no lists of library, grocery store, dry cleaners. . . . I do all those things, too, and I don't do them every day. I guess what I'm asking is: What is a typical day, and why don't moms have time for a call or e-mail? I work and am away from home nine hours a day (plus a few late work events), and I manage to get it all done. I'm feeling like the kid is an excuse to relax and enjoy — not a bad thing at all — but if so, why won't my friend tell me the truth? Is this a contest ("My life is so much harder than yours")? What's the deal? I've got friends with and without kids, and all us child-free folks get the same story and have the same questions.
— Tacoma, Wash.
● Tacoma:
Relax and enjoy. You're funny.
Or you're lying about having friends with kids.
Or you're taking them at their word that they actually have kids, because you haven't personally been in the same room with them. Internet searches?
I keep wavering between giving you a straight answer and giving my forehead some keyboard. To claim you want to understand — while in the same breath implying that the only logical conclusions are that your mom friends are either lying or competing with you — is disingenuous indeed.
So, since it's validation you seem to want, the real answer is what you get. In list form. When you have young kids, your typical day is: constant attention, from getting them out of bed, fed, clean, dressed; to keeping them out of harm's way; to answering their coos, cries and questions; to having two arms and carrying one kid, one set of car keys and supplies for even the quickest trips, including the latest-to-be-declared-essential piece of molded plastic gear; to keeping them from unshelving books at the library; to enforcing rest times; to staying one step ahead of them lest they get too hungry, tired or bored, any one of which produces the kind of checkout-line screaming that gets the checkout line shaking its head.
It's needing 45 minutes to do what takes others 15.
It's constant vigilance, constant touch, constant use of your voice, constant relegation of your needs to the second tier.
It's constant scrutiny and second-guessing from family members and friends, well-meaning and otherwise. It's resisting the constant temptation to seek short-term relief at everyone's long-term expense.
It's doing all this while concurrently teaching virtually everything — language, manners, safety, resourcefulness, discipline, curiosity, creativity, empathy. Everything.
It's also a choice, yes. And a joy. But if you spent all day, every day, with this brand of joy — and then when you got your first 10 minutes to yourself, you wanted to be alone with your thoughts instead of calling a good friend — a good friend wouldn't judge you, complain about you to mutual friends or marvel at how much more productively she uses her time.
Either make a sincere effort to understand, or keep your snit to yourself.
Monday, January 26, 2009
Happy Dance
Why am I doing a happy dance you ask? Well... Several things!
*My blood work was great! We are finally negative!*
*I found out a good friend of mine is pregnant after a miscarriage last month. And so far everything looks good*
*Several of my "online friends" had great appointments today!*
*Little man took a 2 hour nap*
*My doctor said we are cleared to conceive again after one more blood draw in March*
My doctor has once again shortened my wait! He said I am "disgustingly healthy" and we should be "good to go" after the March blood work!
Yep. Starting in March, well, mid-March, my husband and I will be, once again, on the trying to conceive bandwagon!!
I have become obsessed with having a 2009 baby every since I was due in July. Now I know it is a possibility. If we get pregnant in March, we will be due in December. I know it is not my timing, but Gods, however I am excited to have the chance again!
Update and Editing
1.13!!!
YEA! I am officially negative! I have an appointment this afternoon for an annual visit, so I will ask my doctor if my 4 month wait starts now.
Doing some editing today to the blog. If the pictures don't work, that's why. I will get them all back up soon.
ETA: Editing is done. Let me know if things don't work.
Sunday, January 25, 2009
We Now Have...
Soft, non-dangerous corners on the coffee table! I have been meaning to get corner guards since he hit his head last week. My husband did not think we needed them, but I have been SO nervous with him around the table. My thought is, what if he did it again, and hit his eye? I don't want to permanently disable my child. So, as usual, mom wins and we got the bumpers. After I put them on, Daddy told little man to try them out. I think he wants him to hit his head again. Please don't stress mom out!
And here is his head today... I have no idea what the little red scab is to the left of the big one. That was not there the other day.
We also got him a potty. I know it is WAY too early for potty training, but we went ahead and bought one so he can play with it, and get used to sitting on it.
Friday, January 23, 2009
... And Wiskers On Kittens
Bright copper kettles and warm woolen mittens
Brown paper packages tied up with strings
These are a few of my favorite things
Cream colored ponies and crisp apple strudels
Doorbells and sleigh bells and schnitzel with noodles
Wild geese that fly with the moon on their wings
These are a few of my favorite things
Girls in white dresses with blue satin sashes
Snowflakes that stay on my nose and eyelashes
Silver white winters that melt into springs
These are a few of my favorite things
When the dog bites
When the bee stings
When I'm feeling sad
I simply remember my favorite things
And then I don't feel so bad
Ok. I know I said I would post this in a few days, but I am playing with the camera today, and decided to go ahead and do it now. Here are a few of his favorite non-toy toys.
Empty Coke bottles are always fun. They are drumsticks, things to roll, and even try to drink out of. He is way too little for Coke, so he usually gets the empty bottles. He loves empty bottles... even beer ones... I'll get to that later.
Empty popcorn tin left over from Christmas. It makes a great drum!!
Markers, pens, crayons, highlighters... he loves them all. He likes to chew on them, and "write" with them. I have been fortunate enough that he does not know how to take the lid off the markers yet, but he does know how to work a pen!
As you can see, I can't even take a picture without him wanting to play with these.
Oh the TV remote. His all time favorite. We bought him a play remote, and he still wants ours.
Coathangers are fun! They make great braclets. He also likes to carry them around.
The dryer door. This is especially fun when Mommy is folding laundry. He likes to try to shut it when I am putting stuff in, or taking stuff out.
Knives. He loves to just walk around the house with them. Ok. Just kidding. Had to see if you were still paying attention.
As you can see, anything makes a great toy for a toddler. As I was cleaning up his playroom today, I found all of these. An empty beer bottle (from last night... Daddy drank it), a highlighter, a pen, the Blockbuster card that has been missing since last week, and and empty ribbon container from Christmas. That last one is the only one that stayed in his playroom.
Head Wound
Raindrops on Roses...
Bright copper kettles and warm woolen mittens
Brown paper packages tied up with strings
These are a few of my favorite things
Cream colored ponies and crisp apple strudels
Doorbells and sleigh bells and schnitzel with noodles
Wild geese that fly with the moon on their wings
These are a few of my favorite things
Girls in white dresses with blue satin sashes
Snowflakes that stay on my nose and eyelashes
Silver white winters that melt into springs
These are a few of my favorite things
When the dog bites
When the bee stings
When I'm feeling sad
I simply remember my favorite things
And then I don't feel so bad
I thought I would give you a glimpse into my sons favorite things. Today while playing in the play room, I decided to take some pictures. These are a few of his favorite toys.
The train table I found at a consignment sale, with the race car track we found at my least favorite store, Walmart.
Spiderman that sings and dances. We saw this at a playgroup, and little man just had to have it! You can tell him to get Spidey, Spiderman, or even sing the "Itsy Bitsy Spider" and he will get this and bring it to you.
Balls of ANY size! He has about 20 ball pit balls he loves to pull out everyday, and randomly scatter thru out the house. I have found them in my shoes, in my purse, even in the cats water bowl. He also has several footballs, baseballs, soft, hard, big, small... this boy has tons of balls!
Buttons. Does not matter if they are on a toy, on a remote, the TV.... any thing he can push, hes going to!
This is his dog he got for his birthday. He brings it to me and loves when it sings "Head, Shoulder, Knees and Toes"
This is his block sorter. He will sit there for hours, putting blocks in, and taking them out.
Problem is, when he gets frustrated with them not going in, he takes the lid off...
Drops the block in and puts the lid back on.
This boy loves cars. He will push them around saying "vroom". This is one of the cars that goes with his race track. It moves on its own.
I was playing with the shutter speed again on that picture... sorry.
And last, but not least, his push car. He also got this for his birthday. He pushes it, pulls it, rides on it, stands on it... yep, its the all purpose toy!
That last one is my favorite! It takes no batteries and makes no noise! AH silence... Thanks to my mom for that one!
Ill post in a few days his favorite non-toy toys... you know, the things that are not made to be toys.
Tuesday, January 20, 2009
History Being Made....
No matter how you felt about him during the election, now is the time to support him. I did not vote for him, but I will support him. He is our new leader, and my husbands new boss. I am praying for him daily, as he tries to bring the nation away from war, and out of the economic crisis that we are in. I am terrified to see how the world reacts, and terrified of the repercussions that will happen if we withdraw from the war too quickly, but on the same hand, I am excited to see if he can bring all Americans together, and make us all proud of him.
Lets all, as Americans, ban together and support and pray for the new president of our country.
Friday, January 16, 2009
What Is Up With My Child?
Well, today, he was running around as usual, and tripped RIGHT at the coffee table. Now, I know they sell those things to "pad" the coffee table corners, just for things like this, but you know, I thought they were not needed. I mean, I watch my child. Hes never left unsupervisied, so I thought this would not happen! Boy I was wrong.
His forehead met the coffee table corner, and they did not get along! He bled for quite a bit, which I know is normal for head cuts. He cried for a minute, and when I was applying pressure on it, he kept squirming. It finally stopped bleeding and I got this picture.
He's playing now, fine. Running around again already.
I think my head hurts more than his does!
Wednesday, January 14, 2009
Update From My Doctor
They will do the blood work when ever I want, so I scheduled my next one for 2 weeks. I want to know when I am at zero. He also said that he wants me to be at zero for four months before trying again. Four months sure beats the six he originally told me!
I also emailed a doctor up in Boston who spealizes in these things. He said he makes his paitents be at zero for three months before trying again.
I am doing better today. I am determined to get to zero, then convince my doctor that four months is just not gonna work for me. I am gonna convince him that three is long enough! I want off this train as soon as possible!
Monday, January 12, 2009
Big Letdown
Nope. I am crushed. My results from today were 4.69. I know, that's really close to zero, even considered negative in some labs, but not mine. Now the doctor wants to see me again in 2 months! I am going to call him back later and see about still seeing him every week until I finally hit zero, then I want to talk about trying to conceive again. I know it all seems so fast, I had my surgery just over a month ago, but I am ready to move on, and get pregnant again with a healthy baby. My doctor first said I have to wait 6 months from zero to try again. I just want to know when I hit zero, and know when the countdown starts! If I have to wait this long, I want to have a countdown from zero.
Thanks for reading my whining.
Sunday, January 4, 2009
Hikes and Damns.
On the way to the river bed. You can see the lake on the right, the concrete barriers are holding the lake in.
Up where we had our picnic. The lake is on the right, the river bed and damn on the left.
My son, offering me his banana. He likes to share.
We kept hiking, and found the other side of the damn. This is the lake on the top, and the view from the top of the damn
The water
I thought this was a great time to play with the shutter speed on my camera. Here is that picture, which has been further edited on the computer.
As for me, it seems like my body is slowly getting back to normal. My cycle came back yesterday, in the middle of our hike.
My son is also now officially a toddler. I know I said a few weeks back that he took his first steps. Well, he is all over now! Here he is even walking around with his pj's over his head. Silly boy!
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